How do you handle miscommunication with a child?
We are talking with Jane Griffiths from CAPA First Response and she and her team work alongside families. They ask the "why" question. What is the cause of the child's behaviour and how can they work with you to repair the relationship?
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00:00 Introducing Jane Griffiths from CAPA First Response
02:00 How to contact CAPA First Response and the support services available
04:06 Why CAPA First Response was set up
04:16 When a child uses aggression
05:16 Looking underneath the anger and aggression
05:59 Busting the myth of the belligerent child
07:00 Understanding versus discipline
08:04 The shift in patterns of child aggression
10:00 What is really being communicated
14:00 Communication is more than just words, asking the why!
16:00 Living up to labels – the difficult child
18:20 Rebuilding attachment through communication
24:40 Small steps to change the bigger picture
27:40 Rebuilding trust
29:00 Understanding fight, flight, freeze as a response
35:30 Validating your child’s experience to hear them
39:40 How do you want to relate to your child?
45:00 Rules, boundaries and the Karpman Drama Triangle
50:00 Changing the script to change the response
54:00 Working with all participants in the relationship
59:00 How should we describe these fractured relationships?
60:00 Key themes and takeaways