Warning this episode is about Domestic Violence and Abuse
Men are also victims of Domestic Violence and abuse. This can take many forms and due to how society perceives abuse as women as the victims, the men who suffer abuse and/or violence aren’t heard or dismissed about what has happened to them. This doesn’t take away from the fact women that are abused as well.
This is a gender neutral issue and it needs to be called out as well as looking at the labelling. It is about a perpetrator and victim.
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00:00 Introduction
01:30 Introducing Lee
02:30 Advocate for Domestic Abuse
03:40 This happened to me
04:10 Lee’s start in the DV world
08:20 Belief Change
09:25 Substance misuse
10:20 Men are perpetrators
11:13 Gender Neturatility
13:48 Minister for Men
14:47 Campaign on behalf of women
15:50 Master studies
16:30 Tipping the balance
20:20 Offering support and talk
21:20 Whataboutisms and Facing Big Issues
24:20 As well instead of Either or
25:40 Alex Gill's story
27:00 Lee writes his book
31:43 Double standards
34:28 Biology response isn’t consent
35:40 She can’t say no
36:35 Toxic Society
37:18 Police Training
39:30 Equality in society
41:40 Challenging the narrative
43:03 Police help or hindrance
44:10 Courage to report
45:10 False allegations
48:10 Time to talk about the issues
49:00 Men the subset in law
50:45 Women challenge the narrative
52:05 Equality for everybody
53:18 Witnessing Physical assault
55:55 Emotional Abuse
56:40 Lee’s Story
1:01:00 Not recognising abuse
1:02:40 Accumulation
1:03:48 Supermarket Sweep
1:05:15 Victim-perpetrator dynamic
10:6:30 Toxic Social Media
1:07:40 College and University talks
1:09:35 Men experience Coercive behaviours
1:10:10 Feminist research
1:12:25 Services for all
1:14:50 Objectifying
1:16:20 Escaping relationships
1:17:05 Trauma is Trauma
1:18:15 Sevices Designed to Support
1:18:35 Where to find Lee’s dissertation & Book